NARM Training Institute

In this webinar, Larry and Sherri discuss self-betrayal within the context of NARM therapy. They emphasize that self-betrayal is not a static condition from childhood trauma but an ongoing, dynamic process that individuals continuously engage in. The webinar explores how self-betrayal stems from the core dilemma of choosing between authentic self-expression and securing attachment relationships. They relate self-betrayal to shame, self-hatred, and various survival styles, detailing how each style manifests different forms of self-betrayal, from disconnecting from feelings to rejecting personal needs.

The discussion covers the range of self-betrayal from small, daily instances like not speaking up to significant life decisions. Larry and Sherri delve into the paradox of seeking love through performance, noting that such actions often lead to a sense of not being loved for one's true self. They highlight the difference between the fear of not being liked as an adult versus the catastrophic fear of not being loved as a child. The webinar underscores the importance of agency in addressing self-betrayal, encouraging individuals to recognize their part in these dynamics and move towards greater self-acceptance and freedom. The connection between self-betrayal and the body, as well as the trend of defining oneself by performance in society, is also examined.