NARM Training Institute

Larry and Brad discuss the importance of clarifying the therapeutic process from the outset in NARM (NeuroAffective Relational Model). Larry recounts his observations from numerous consultations, noting that therapists often struggle to define the specific goals and collaborative dynamics with their clients. He emphasizes that a clear understanding of what both the therapist and client want from the therapy is essential for effective treatment. This clarity prevents therapists from assuming full responsibility for the client's process and ensures that both parties are aligned in their therapeutic goals.

Brad draws an analogy to illustrate the necessity of this clarity, comparing it to a mechanic who cannot diagnose a car problem without specific information from the car owner. Similarly, without clear communication from clients about their needs and goals, therapists might struggle to address the underlying issues effectively. This lack of clarity can lead to a dynamic where therapists feel responsible for fixing the client’s issues, while the client may feel passive or resistant.

Larry highlights the concept of agency and its connection to NARM's therapeutic approach. By focusing on the client's intentions and engaging in an exploration-oriented process, therapists can facilitate a more dynamic and self-referential therapeutic relationship. This approach shifts the focus from merely alleviating symptoms to understanding and addressing the deeper, underlying issues that drive those symptoms. Exploring the client’s internal experience and obstacles allows for a more integrated and effective therapeutic process, where increased agency supports both symptom relief and personal growth.